Getting Grief Right

Aiana Vairo

“All sorrows can be borne if you put them in a story or tell a story about them,”  Isak Dinesen.

Patrick O’Malley’s, Getting Grief Right January 2015, New York Times,  describes the inability to reach “closure” over the loss of a child and how closure may not be a healthy goal; instead the worst pains in life can become the richest when we give them a public life through stories.  He says, ” When loss is a story, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is no pressure to move on. There is no shame in intensity or duration. Sadness, regret, confusion, yearning and all the experiences of grief become part of the narrative of love for the one who died.”  InterPlay story-telling forms give us ways of transforming life’s experiences, the tough ones and the good ones, so we can hold them as life’s treasures.

Aiana Vairo
Aiana Vairo

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